Friendship, Lies and All

Friendship, Lies and All: Home for the Holidays, Heather Vogel-Frederick

         I'm currently reading Home for the Holidays, by Heather Vogel- Frederick. It is the fifth book in the Mother Daughter Book Club series. I think that what I really love about this book is how relataeble it is, particurally through friendships. Most books show friends that are absolutely perfect together, and always help each other, and when they're together nothing goes wrong. This is something I really dislike about realistic fiction books, because generally friendships aren't like that, and like everything there is a lot of stuff that goes wrong. I think that to read a book that I cannot relate with, really makes it a lot harder to enjoy because everything tend to mean a little less to you. In Home for the Holidays the girls are incredible friends to each other, but they still lie to each other, and have their issues.

          

          While Megan and Becca's families are on the Caribbean cruise, Becca lies to Megan. On page 236, Megan tells Becca that she really, really likes the captains son Phillipe. Later, Becca goes on a 'walk' with Phillipe because shes possibly jealous even though she claims shes not. For a few days towards the end of the cruise Megan won't talk to Becca because of how hurt she is, but by the end she realizes that her friendship with Becca is more important and that they can work through anything. Although their problems do end up a little easier and faster than they might in real life, I've read so many books where the main girl has her one best friend that has never, ever done anything wrong, which really isn't realistic. Also, while at Jess's aunt and uncles house, Jess has a broken leg and Emma befriends her mean cousin and without realizing they begin to disclude Jess. When Jess confronts Emma, Emma tells her that she wasn't trying to and although she is mad Jess trusts Emma and they forgive each other. This is another example of a relationship in a book where friendships aren't perfect, and thats a big thing that I love about these books.

          Seeing how the girls get happy endings with their friends, they still do fight with their friends. when I read a book where all friendships are perfect, despite whatever other problems the main characters have, it makes me feel like I cannot relate to the book, because it feels a little fake. One of the most important qualities in a book, is when you can really get inside of it, and if it feels... wrong, that's pretty hard. I think that when I see best friends getting through struggles together it makes me want to read more, and get deeper into the book.

          In conclusion, I really like the aspect of the book where it seems like there are more problems than just basic ones, and also ones that happen between best friends. This makes the book feel a lot more realistic and relatable.

Societys Skinny Little Scars

Society's Skinny Little Scars- Stick Figure, by Lori Gottlieb

The book Stick Figure, is Lori Gottlieb's memoir from her childhood, and how when she was eleven years old she was diagnosed with anorexia. I know that it definitely comes from the people around her, mainly her mother, her friend Julie's mother, and the media, specifically magazines. She comes from a family that is not very loving and her parents are definitely not supportive and tend to only notice her when she does something wrong. I think that her relationships with the people around her are what cause her Anorexia, and it's less about her personally.

For example, her mother is always putting her food on other peoples plates, claiming she's not hungry, and whether or not shes Anorexic, she definitely has eating issues, but her mother also is always yelling at her that she "better eat her potato salad" and things like that. her mother pressuring her into eating, I think really inclines Lori to eat less. She always gets really angry when her parents make comments like this because she feels that when her mother is being hypocritical it's not fair. The angrier and angrier Lori seems to get, the less and less she seems to eat. Also, I think her family is influencing her eating disorder because I believe that although those coments made by her mother make her angry, I do think that she craves having any sort of attention from her parents. Like on page 52 when she screams "f**k you?" to her parents because shes angry, it's triggered by the fact that she knows they will listen. I think that because her parents kind of neglect her, she knows that if she does something wrong, she will finally receive the attention she is craving.

 In additions, I think that like anything, the kids around us and the media around us, shape who we are and definitely cause many eating disorders in young girls. For example, Kate starts talking about having 'thunder thighs', which makes Lori look at her own thighs and begin to think that she must have them. Also, she is always asking herself whether she has as good of a 'body' as the women she see's in her mothers magazines that she steals. Who somebody is a product of the environment around them, and in this case, Lori becomes who she thinks people are pressuring her to be. She see's whats surrounding her, and wants to be like it, or as good as it. Whether or not I agree with being like that, I know I understand it, and that it cannot be helped and therefore does not making Loris Anorexia something she causes for herself. I think that this all derives from the pressure to be society's form of perfect, which is hardly ever even achievable, because you never really can be perfect to everyone. When girls see those Women in magazines they assume that is perfect, and do not want to be 'scars' ruining the perfection.

Also, I think that even though she has a very extreme eating disorder, Lori is a very relatable girl. Partly, because she is writing about her own experiences, but also because the style in which she writes is as if it was her writing about it when she was a girl. The voice she writes it through is completely un byast and even though today she has overcome her Anorexia and know that that is a bad mindset, in the book she still writes it through the lens where she completely agrees with all the crazy things she says. As a girl, many of her insecurities, and problems through craving attention are things that I relate to. Having older sibilings, who it sometimes really can seem like your parents love and appreciate more is really hard, and I know Lori understands that because of her brother David. All of this makes the book a lot easier to read, because I understand all of her mindsets and problems.

In conclusion, I think that Lori's Anorexia is not something she can help, and is simply a product of the way others treat her, and the society is around her. She just feels the pressure to be perfect, like so many other girls her age.

The Lorax: The Future is in Our Hands

The Lorax, By Dr. Seuss: The Future is in Our Hands

In class, we just read the picture book The Lorax by Dr. Seuss. It is the story of the Once-Ler and the Lorax. In it,  the Lorax speaks for the animals and plants of a forest. Then the Once-ler comes and begins hacking down trees, driving all the animals away and creating pollution and smog just because he is greedy and wants money. I think that in this book, which I believe is definitely based on Global Warming and rich, greedy corporation owners, also shows an incredible relationship between children and adults. I think it shows this through the Once-ler and the one child he trusts with the future of the world.

At the end of the book, after the Once-ler is done telling his story to a small boy, he hands him something. He gives him the last Truffula Tree seed of them all, this basically means that he trusts this yound boy with the future of the environment and an entire species, which is obviously a HUGE burden. One thing that I really noticed, is that of all people, the Once-ler chooses to trust a child. I believe that this signifies how many rich, greedy adults have really done a lot to mess up our world, and therefore our futures. Also, how at this point the only people who can change this are the people of the future and the ones who have to turn around the messes that have been created for them, the children. In addition, i think that the Once-ler knows that if he gives it to another grown up like him, and gives them the power that he got when he started controlling the Truffula Trees, adults who have seen so much of the world will make the same mistakes he did, whereas, an innocent child will not know how to do wrong and will not be tempted by wrongs and know to do the right thing.

Also, I think that the roles three adults play in the book back up my opinion. First of all, a character only shown once, is the man who comes and buys the Thneed, is important. He is just a passer-by who see's the Thneed and decides even though it really shows no purpose he will by it. So many people in our counrty who have money, do not think of things that might need it and are greedy and simply buy things for pleasure. Also, I think that the Lorax, being really the only good character, shows how there are only a few people doing good in our world and putting themselves second to the good of others. Lastly, I think that the Once-ler being an adult supports the adults being the ones who aren't thinking about the good of others, and trying for nothing but to become wealthy.

In conclusion, I think that in the book The Lorax, by Dr. Seuss the way that the Once-ler is an adult and the person he trusts the future with is a child, shows in a big way a message Dr. Seuss way trying to portray about kids being the ones to save the future.

Nathan Price: The Father, the Husband, and the Dictator

The Poisonwood Bible, by Barbara Kingsolver: Reading Response 9 (Kind of a Spoiler, so small Spoiler Alert)

While I was reading The Poisonwood Bible, by Barbara Kingsolver one character throughout the book captivated me. He is not exactly a main character, but he is important to EVERY character in some way. His name is Nathan Price and he is the father of Leah, Ruth-May, Rachel, and Adah and the husband of Orleanna Price. In the book he brings his family to Congo as part of a mission and starts trying to help a village 'find God' that is unwilling and content with their current beliefs. Through some characters he is the good guy in the book, to others he is the bad guy, and what I find most interesting is that some feel as though they cannot have an opinion because, I think, of fear.


I think that everyone in Nathan Price's family is scared of him. For example when he is being completely irrational and rude to Orleanna she simply agrees with him and basically runs away. No one ever challenges him, even when it is very apparent that he is wrong. I can see there fear, but what I wonder is why are they so scared of him? Even the people in the village who just met him, although they disagree with his sermons do not want to say anything because I think they are scared to anger him. This strange fear everybody has of him is part of why I think he is a very interesting character. I think that HE has so much respect or himself and HE thinks he has so much power, that other people go along with it. Also, I think no one really knows (especially in his family) that everybody feels the same way and would like to challenge him, so they think that if they do challenge him, everyone will side with Nathan Price and turn on them.

Also, on page 482, Leah tells Adah and Rachel that their father is dead. When normally you would expect great sadness, from the girls it felt like a great burden had been lifted from them. I think that their whole lives he has always been this great figure above them, and beacause of that fear, they have always had to do everything he says and agree with him. Nathan Prices relationship with his daughters is less father to daughter and more dictator to his people. So suddenly, I think that they feel free and like they can now just go on with their lives with no sense of 'will he be okay with me doing this?' The way people follow, yet maybe even despise Nathan Price makes me have so many questions about him. He is definitely arrogant, and very self centered, but on the other hand I don't think he is a selfish man because he gave up his life and church is Georgia to do what he thought was helping Africa.

I think that the villagers wanted to love him, and yet felt that the more and more he forced them to change their beliefs they had to hate him, which I guess is fair of them, but another thing that makes me unsure of whether he is a good or bad person is that he GENUINELY felt that making them become devout Christians would help them. I think that if he just wanted to do it because they were his beliefs so he wanted more people to follow him, that would make him a bad person, but the way he thinks he's helping really confuses me. I think he is trying to be a good person, but is very small-minded and needs to look beyond his own religion and understand the type of people  he is around in Atlanta are very different from those in the Congo. When it comes to his family, I do think that he is very selfish and believes that he can control all his daughters and wife, when that is not fair at all. I know that being the 1960's that was normal so maybe its not entirely his fault, but it still says something negative about the type of person he is.

In the book The Poisonwood Bible, the most interesting character, to me, is the Revered Nathan Price. I found the way other people treat him, with fear and hatred, interesting but also puzzling like so many other aspects of him. Things like how he treats his family, and the villagers, and even the type of person he is.

Looking For Alaska: Following the Leader

Looking for Alaska: By John Greene, Alaska is the String that Holds Everyone Together

          In Looking For Alaska, by John Greene, after Alaska dies I started to realize that everyone began losing touch and their friendships were strained. I also started to see how Alaska had brought them together by being their friend and now, after dying, she is tearing them apart by not being there. I saw this in Pudge and the Colonel's friendship mostly. But also it really showed how to Pudge, Colonel, Lara, and Takumi Alaska is more than their leader. She is a huge part of them. Without Alaska, they wouldn't have  the same friendships, relationships, and at least for Pudge they wouldn't be smoking or drinking, and all of these things shape who they are. So when you put it that way, Alaska shapes who they are just by being there, yet while not even trying to. 

          In the book, Colonel and Pudge are best friends and roommates, yet at the very beginning its not like that. At first, they talk except you can tell they're not really friends and don't have that much in common. Then they go to Alaska's room and Pudge is introduced to Alaska. This doesn't change they're friendship immideatly, but I began to notice a slight change of them becoming closer and closer, and their relationship goes from friendly roommates, to friends. Once they all become close to Alaska they really start to talk to each other, like them being friends with Alaska also means they can be friends with each other. Also, when Alaska dies Pudge and Colonel sort of fall out, because Alaskas not there and she really was what connected them. Although they're still friends, they constantly snap at each other and have almost no patience. For example, on page 161 Pudge says one thing and Colonel says, "Just stop worrying about your goddamned self for one day and worry about your dead friend." which also shows me how without Alaska they're friendship just isn't as strong because its like she subconciously controlled it. Also, Lara and Pudge start going out in the middle of the book. At the beginning of the book Alaska introduces them at McDonalds and it's obvious they like each other, yet no one says anything. Later in the book, Alaska sets them up, and they go out. To me, it seemed like that was Alaska 'giving them her permission.' I don't think Alaska tries to but without trying to she really does control everyones relationships, and does more than just lead ther friends, she is like a part of them.

          Also, I think that everyone lets Alaska lead them, because they're at boarding school without parents, so it's easier to let her lead them then have to lead themselves. For example, on page 80 Pudge is talking to Alaska and doesn't know wat to do about Thanksgiving so he just asks Alaska, "What am I going to do?" and when she says,"You'll spend Thanksgiving with me, silly. Here." Thats just what Pudge does because he doesn't know what to do, so he just lets Alaska know what he should do. I don't think that this is at all a bad thing, but I also think Alaska may know whats best when making some decisions, like the conversation above that doesn't really matter so it's okay that he's following Alaska, but I don't know if when faced with hard choices Alaska would make the right decision. Also, I think that I understand that everyone needs someone to lean on and he's in love with Alaska but when faced with harder decisions Alaska can crack under pressure, and so maybe he shouldn't be going to her.

          In the book, Looking for Alaska, Alaska is clearly the leader. She affects how her friends act, the choices they make, and the company they keep. I also saw how Pudge tends to lean on her for support, and I know that without parents around anymore he obviously needs someone, but I don't really think Alaska is the right choice.

Plain Truth: Reading Response 7

Plain Truth, by Jodi Picoult: Ellie Knows What Really Happened

          In the book Plain Truth, by Jodi Picoult, I think that Ellie knows that Katie did give birth to the baby, and is unsure of whether or not she killed it, but still wants to defend her, this is because she understands what its like to feel trapped, as Katie is by her Amish father and family, because of her rocky relationship with her husband. In their relationship I know that Ellie wants to leave, and yet her husband seems to make her feel forced into staying, and makes her keep coming back, so she really knows how Katie is controlled and truly does not want to disappoint them or be put under bann by her family. 

          I think that Ellie definitely knows that Katie, did have the baby and is lying about it. On page 44, she has just met Katie and is telling her what they are going to do in the courtroom, and all Katie will say back to her is, "I didn't have a baby." Ellie tells her they are going to have to find a loophole in the evidence, and also tells her that a hospital and all the police do think she had a baby. She begins to get frustrated with Katie and I think that how she reacts to Katie tells me she knows Katie did have the baby. When she says they have to find a loophole for the second time, it is because she knows if they cannot find one it doesn't matter what Katie or she says, because even at the very beginning she knows she has nothing to fight the opposing counsel with. Also, she knows that finding some sort of loophole is the last resort and they are already falling back on it because even though the opposing counsel has no certain evidence Katie is guilty, they have no evidence at all that she is innocent and Ellie understands this.

          Also, I think that she both understands why Katie is lying and also understands hat she is guilty further because she knows exactly why she would lie. As I mentioned earlier Ellie's husband  Stephen is controlling, and in their marriage what he says, goes. For example, Ellie wants to have a baby and sends time looking for sperm donors and yet Stephen doesn't want to and won't even allow Ellie to discuss it with him. I think that Katie is in a similar situation. Being Amish men have much more power than women so Katie has to do what they say, and similarly not have a child. Because of this I think Ellie has a greater understanding of the trial. I think that if she thought Katie had no reason to lie she would be much more inclined to believe her, and yet because she knows Katie has a reason to lie, it is easier for her to know that she is lying than it is for other people, such as Aunt Leda. 

       I think that I and other people can not relate as closely to Katie, but I do understand why she is lying and her motive. She is lying because she wants to please other people, and not get in trouble and have people ashamed of or disappointed in her. When put this simply, I think that it is much easier to understand and is helpful in getting closer to the character, and understanding their logic. I know that I know how Katie feels because when you know you have people upset with you, it can and will force some people to lie. In conclusion, I think that Ellie knows Katie is lying but still wants to defend her because she understands her, and in addition I think that I know and can relate to Katies motive behind lying.

Hiding From The Truth, My Sisters Keeper`

My Sisters Keeper, by Jodi Picoult: Hiding From The Truth

          While reading the book My Sisters Keeper, by Jodi Picoult I started to see theme where characters were hiding from the truths that were around them. I saw it in Sara, during the trial, and in Julia, when she starts to realize she loves Campbell again but doesn't want to, and lastly in Anna, when one moment she wants to go through with the trial and then as soon as she sees Kate she no longer does. I think that the idea of 'hiding from the truth' is something humans do naturally when something bad comes up, or a harsh reality kicks in, or something you don't want to happen, happens. I think that the characters are going through problems with similar ideas and find it easier to ignore iit that truly confront it, full on.

          During the trial, from pages 295 to 297, Campbell lists all the medical procedures Anna has undergone and also all the side affects or problems that could have occured in going through them. He also states blankly that Anna was born to live her life like this and genetically conceived simply to help Kate. The entire time Sara is trying to take what Campbell says and state it in different ways, to make it seem less harsh and true, and more harmless. For example, he says, "you and your husband decide to conceive a child who would be genetically programmed to be an organ donor for Kate, so that she could be cured?" This is definatly the truth and yet Sara tries to cover it up by saying,"Not the word I would choose, but that was the story behind Anna's conception" As if she id trying to play it down as though thats not exactly or truly what happened.  I think that this shows that if Sara had known for sure she had did the right thing, she would have no objections and let Campbell tell the court exactly what happened. Also,  the fact that she knows she made a mistake, but is trying to cover it up, to me shows her trying to hide from the truth.

          I also saw a the character Julia trying to hide from the truth. She had been in love with Campbell in high school, and they hen parted ways messily with Julia promising she would never fall back in love with him. They are brought together again through the trial and Julia is trying so hard to act as though she doesn't love him, yet deep down I think she does. On page 253 Anna asks Julia if she "thinks Campbell is cute?" Julia responds by basically freaking out and saying "What?" she then says "I could see where some women... might find him attractive." She is very jumpy and nervous around this topic because she doesn't want to say yes, and finally admit it to herself, or say no, because she and Anna both know thats not the truth. Also, on page 278 Campbell asks Julia to go out to dinner with him, even if its only because they need to talk about the trial. Julia panics and doesn't want to go. I think that she doesn't want to because if she does she knows she can no longer hide from the fact that she's in love with him. I think that the character Julia is another example of the theme of trying to hide from the truth.

         Lastly, I think that Anna is trying to hide from the reality that even though going through the trial is best for her it will kill Kate and make her mother incredibly disappointed in her. For example, Anna always tells Julia and Campbell that she wants to go through with the trial and is confident in her answer. Then later on, whenever she enters the hospital and is with Kate of her Mom she pretends that she's not going to go through with the trial, so that she can hide from the sadness and that will come from admitting the truth to them. 

          I think that in the book My Sisters Keeper by Jodi Picoult one theme in many of the characters and conflicts is people hiding from the truth, or what they're scared will happen. I saw this mainly in the characters Sara and Anna Fitzgerald and Julia, Anna's Guardian Ad Litem in the courtroom, and the relationships in the Fitzgerald family and between Julia and Campbell.